Relationship Hacks

You don’t have to say yes to every social engagement you’re invited to. There is this fear in relationships that if we don’t say yes to every invite, that we’re becoming relationship hermits. Ask yourself how much it really means to the person who invited you if you go, and how much that person means to you. If the answer is, not much, to either of those questions, don’t go.

A lot of couples unwind with a bottle of wine or a few beers. The trouble is, sometimes you wake up the next day, realizing you don’t remember the really important things you spoke about the night before. It might sound tough at first, but practice having sober date nights.

Sometimes you might get several hours to hang with your partner, but you ended up watching TV because you didn’t think you had anything important to share. Keep a little calendar where you write down important events in your partner’s life. If he or she mentioned that next Thursday they are grabbing lunch during their break with an old college friend in town, write that down.

Cooking together is romantic to a point. After you’ve been living together for a while, cooking together just detracts from the real conversation. When you two do cook, cook enough for the next few days. You just bought yourself a couple of evenings where you can heat up leftovers, and start catching up sooner.